Digging your Grave with your Fork

image“Honey, I just heard Uncle Joey died” – says a mom somewhere in the country to her husband.

“Wow, but he was so young, how?” – says her husband.

“An overdose” she said  “Mcdonald’s combined with Krispy Kreme”

“That’s so sad” he shook his head “he should’ve gotten help”

Sounds like a funny dialogue from a slapstick comedy right? Wouldn’t it be nice if people talked about obesity like they talked about drug addiction? Wouldn’t it be nice if people had interventions for you to let you know that you had a problem? Wouldn’t it be nice if a friend said to you, “Hey man, listen dude maybe you should eat a salad.” It’s not going to happen. Look in the Mirror.

No one is going to tell you that you’re Obese and that you’re killing yourself with your fork. People have been trained that pointing out someone’s weight is a form of insensitive behavior and bullying. These people are hurting you.  You know the whole Big Boned, real women have curves, real men have love handles, be proud of who you are, fat and happy crowd. They are enablers and they are seriously hurting others.image I’m not saying that real women don’t have curves and real men don’t have love handles ok, they do, what I’m saying is they might have curves and having a few extra pounds and being happy or being “thick” for both a man or a woman is fine and healthy,  but real women or men don’t have rascal motorized scooters because they can’t walk at age 40.  People take it too far. There’s a line between being ok, and not being ok and being obese is NOT ok.

People are also afraid to hurt your feelings. Let me ask you though, What is worse? Having a difficult conversation with someone or letting them kill themselves because you didn’t speak up?  You have to see the signs and admit there is a problem and It’s not easy but you have to for you, your friends, your pets, your family, and anyone else in your life that cares about you.image

I ignored the signs for a long time. It was 2013, I was well over 350 pounds. I was on an entry team doing a search warrant in a 5th floor walk up on the 5th floor. No elevator, no problem I thought. 350 plus pounds plus another 50 pounds at least of tactical gear up 5 flights into a chaotic scenario….you see where I’m going with this yet? So we walked up 4 flights in full tactical gear where we would wait while the breaching team breached the door. I felt like I was going to die. My heart was beating so hard and I was so out of breath I thought I was going to collapse….but it wasn’t over. The guy in front of me asked if I was ok. I gave the thumbs up. I was lying. The door was breached and we ran up another flight and into the apartment where we cleared it for bad guys, the entire time I thought I was going to pass out at any second, until finally someone gave the all clear signal and I ran into the bathroom where I threw up and hid so no one could see how physically drained I was from what had just happened. If there were one more flight of stairs or an aggressive criminal behind those doors or worse I would be dead. I have no doubts.

What did I do after you ask? I mean I know if you’re reading this you’re begging me already to lose weight, but nope. I took off my tactical gear in the middle of the winter where I was still covered from head to toe in sweat while wearing a t-shirt and I ate 3 slices of pizza, some ice cream and high fived the guys on my team for a job well done….. I ignored the problem like it didn’t exist. I was in denial. I immediately erased it from my memory.image

I ignored countless signs until one day I had a nightmare. The same scenario except at the end, I died. I’m talking daughter crying, bagpipes playing, uniformed detail REAL. I woke up thinking to myself what the hell is wrong with me? Why did I ignore the signs so long? Why didn’t anyone push me before? I was so mad at myself. I knew i had to change, but only because I caught it in time and only because my wife and others are pushing me. The truth is most of us know we’re overweight, we just ignore it, but sometimes all we need is a push to stop ignoring the signs that we are slowly digging our graves with our forks. I’m not saying be an asshole about it, but start having these hard conversations with your loved ones, before it’s too late.image

99 thoughts on “Digging your Grave with your Fork

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  17. The previous comment quoted.."But then legal copyright on design is very tricky and complicated".It's compicated if you are dealing with a global brand as a previous comment stated laws change from country to country..that's how lawyers make money but a blatant copy of a design, brand identity and packaging is pretty straight forward in UK law. Defending it as the copier…thats the expensive and tricky bit. With backing from your design company and the national retailer you supply (do they know?) behind you if I was the copier I would be pooping my knickers.

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  29. So sweet!Jas gets it too. I love that about her. It shows me she’s gonna do really well in school. I read to her and then I hand the book to her and tell her to read it to me and she does! These babies are so smart!krissy recently posted..

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